The teacher, BERT HELLINGER, for those who don’t know, passed away almost two years ago on the 19/9/19.
The German psychotherapist and writer was 93 years old, and is known worldwide for the creation of the therapeutic method ′′Family Constellation”.
He left this wonderful text:
Life disappoints you to stop living with illusions and see reality.
Life destroys everything superfluous until only the important remains.
Life doesn’t leave you alone, so you can stop blaming yourself and accept everything as ′′ is “.
Life is going to withdraw what you have, until you stop complaining and start to thank.
Life sends conflicting people to heal you, so you stop looking out and start reflecting who you are inside.
Life lets you fall again and again, until you decide to learn the lesson.
Life takes you out of the way and presents you crossroads, until you stop wanting to control everything and flow like a river.
Life puts your enemies on the road, until you stop reacting.
Life scares you and will scare you as many times as necessary, until you lose your fear and regain your faith.
Life distances you from the people you love, until you understand that we are not that body, but the soul it contains.
Life laughs at you many, many times, until you stop taking everything so seriously and you can laugh at yourself.
Life breaks you in as many parts as it takes, so that light penetrates you.
Life confronts you against rebels, until you stop trying to control.
Life repeats the same message, if necessary with screams and covers, until you finally hear it.
Life sends lightning and storms, to wake you up.
Life humiliates you and sometimes defeats you again and again until you decide to let your ego die.
Life denies you goods and greatness until you stop wanting goods and greatness and begin to serve.
Life cuts your wings and prunes your roots, until you need wings or roots, just disappear in the forms and your being flies.
Life denies you miracles, until you understand everything is a miracle.
Life shortens your time, so you can hurry to learn to live.
Life ridicules you until you do nothing, no one, so that then it turns you into everything.
Life doesn’t give you what you want, but what you need to evolve.
Life hurts you and haunts you until you drop your whims and tantrums and appreciate your breath.
Life hides treasures from you until you learn to come to life and seek them.
Life denies you God, until you see Him in everyone and everything.
Life wakes you up, prunes you, breaks you down, disappoints you… but believe me, that’s for your best self to manifest… until only love remains in you “.
Did you know that when Einstein gave lectures at the numerous US universities he was invited to, the recurring question that students asked him was:
Do you believe in God?
And he always answered:
I believe in the God of Spinoza.
The ones who hadn’t read Spinoza didn’t understand…
I hope this gem of history, serves you as much as it does me:
Baruch de Spinoza was a Dutch philosopher considered one of the three great rationalists of 17th-century philosophy, along with René Descartes in France, and Gottfried Leibniz in Germany.
Here’s some of his wisdom:
God would have said:
Stop praying and punching yourself in the chest!
What I want you to do is go out into the world and enjoy your life. I want you to enjoy, sing, have fun and enjoy everything I’ve made for you.
Stop going to those dark, cold temples that you built yourself and say they are my house! My house is in the mountains, in the woods, rivers, lakes, beaches. That’s where I live and there I express my love for you.
Stop blaming me for your miserable life; I never told you there was anything wrong with you or that you were a sinner, or that your sexuality was a bad thing! Sex is a gift I have given you and with which you can express your love, your ecstasy, your joy. So don’t blame me for everything they made you believe.
Stop reading alleged sacred scriptures that have nothing to do with me. If you can’t read me in a sunrise, in a landscape, in the look of your friends, in your son’s eyes… you will find me in no book! Trust me and stop asking me. Would you tell me how to do my job?
Stop being so scared of me. I do not judge you or criticize you, nor get angry, or seek to punish you. I am pure love.
Stop asking for forgiveness, there’s nothing to forgive. If I made you… I filled you with passions, limitations, pleasures, feelings, needs, inconsistencies… free will. How can I blame you if you respond to something I put in you? How can I punish you for being the way you are, if I’m the one who made you? Do you think I could create a place to burn all my children who behave badly for the rest of eternity? What kind of God would do that?
Forget any kind of commandments, any kind of laws; those are wiles to manipulate you, to control you, that only create guilt in you.
Respect your peers and don’t do what you don’t want for yourself. All I ask is that you pay attention in your life, that your consciousness is your guide.
My beloved, this life is not a test, not a step, not a rehearsal, nor a prelude to paradise. This life is the only thing that exists here and now, and it is all you need.
I have set you absolutely free, no prizes or punishments, no sins or virtues… no one carries a marker, no one keeps a record.
You are absolutely free to create in your life heaven or hell.
I could tell you if there’s anything after this life, but I won’t… but I can give you a tip. Live as if there is nothing after… as if this is your only chance to enjoy, to love, to exist.
So, if there’s nothing, then you will have enjoyed the opportunity I gave you. And if there is, rest assured that I won’t ask if you behaved right or wrong, I’ll ask. Did you like it? Did you have fun? What did you enjoy the most? What did you learn?…
Stop believing in me; believing is assuming, guessing, imagining. I don’t want you to believe in me… I want you to feel me in you when you kiss your beloved, when you tuck in your little girl, when you caress your dog, when you bathe in the sea.
Stop praising me, what kind of egomaniac God do you think I am?
I’m bored being praised, I’m tired of being thanked. Feeling grateful? Prove it by taking care of yourself, your health, your relationships, the world. Express your joy!… that’s the way to praise me.
Stop complicating things and repeating as a parakeet what you’ve been taught about me.
The only thing for sure is that you are here, that you are alive, and that this world is full of wonders.
What do you need more miracles for? Why so many explanations?
Look for me outside… you won’t find me. Find me inside… there I am beating within you.